These were my last therapists words to me just before I left her office. I'm beginning to think that therapists are not as much like doctors as I originally thought. I do not mean to insult the profession, but there is much that many therapists do not understand. Like lovers. Unlike listeners. In fact, I have had more therapists than I've had lovers and less listeners than I've had therapists.
The story for me now is that I'm holding on. Holding on and reaching out. I've begun to dabble again into spiritual experiences, which in the past, have provided much healing and peace for me. I'm currently reading two books: one on prayer and the other on listening. I just now realized there has been a hole in my approach to prayer even more so than there has been in my past listening skills.
Here is how I reasoned it: Prayer to God often comes in the form of somewhat grocery lists of needs and desires. After all, God is there to help us, no? On the other hand, listening comes in the form of selflessly minding the other's thoughts and feelings to the point that one forgets their own and focuses on the speaker. Now, given that God (or whatever you call him or her) is the foundation for truth, and that he or she also has a will for us in the form of love, why is there so little listening in prayer?
I know it sounds weird. I mean, what do you tell a person who says God speaks to them? Do you ask them the secret of their drug cocktail? I would certainly feel that way. That is to say, I would feel that way if I were completely sane and had all of my shit together. Egos spike quite higher when they are stepping on others. But I don't, and I'm not, so on we go.
What would happen if we took time to get comfy and pray. Who in their right mind says prayer has to be some sort of ritualistic recital? Get comfy, quite down, and listen to God. If he is who he claims to be, then he will speak to you. If he is not, or simply doesn't give a shit, then you'll hear nothing. And it is here that I need to make a distinction. A simple one, between, let's say, eastern and western religious philosophies.
What I propose in the above paragraph can only be done with a Judeo-Christian approach. Most eastern religions require the emptying of one's self in prayer, detachment from all things, and a sort of raising up or branching out of the mind to relate. In the western Judeo-Christian approach, prayer requires the filling up of one's self with God, a deep dependence on him, and a sort of selfish focus wherein God reaches out and in to you. Not exactly Sunday school stuff, but I thought I'd make the distinction.
So, given a God who is truth, who loves us, and wants to help us, I neglect to see why listening to God in prayer could be considered as absurd as I once thought it was. Imagine actively listening to the Truth. Empathizing with an almighty heart that loves you. Reflecting those emotions as though they were a person speaking to you and you were giving them their full attention, complete with reflecting facial expressions, tones of voice, ears filled with their intention.
I know I am reaching here. Reaching out, holding on, just holding on. But I might, just might, actually believe this.
1 comment:
I like the topic you bring up here.
Thought: Prayer does not always need to be for needs and desires. It can simply be to talk to God; to feel as if you are talking to the best active listener there is. Prayer can also be used to show gratitude, appreciation, and thanks.
There are times when it feels as if there is not a good active listener present in your life. But spiritually, you can always turn to Him to listen. You may not hear an answer, yet that does not mean He is not listening. Maybe He is so into thought as you are speaking, that there isn't anything to say. Maybe think of it as a "comfortable silence" shared with God.
~Nice to hear your thoughts. Thank you.
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